{"id":33,"date":"2004-01-24T02:20:59","date_gmt":"2004-01-24T10:20:59","guid":{"rendered":"\/?p=33"},"modified":"2004-01-24T02:20:59","modified_gmt":"2004-01-24T10:20:59","slug":"modes-of-failure","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/tim.cexx.org\/?p=33","title":{"rendered":"Modes of failure"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>&#8220;Here I sit now, broken-hearted&#8230;&#8221;, goes the familiar bathroom-stall scrawl. While not exactly reveling in my single-ness, watching the supernovae of relationships of those close to me has me re-evaluating this position. At the present moment I am consoling my brother&#8217;s fiancee, who sounds just absolutely despondent over feelings that he doesn&#8217;t care about her any more and treats her like a friend and not a fiancee, and never calls, and losing him, and thinks he&#8217;s gonna dump her, and thinks he might be cheating, and that it&#8217;s all her fault, and more along those lines than I really can\/should express here. This might tie in somehow with a previous entry, but I can&#8217;t be sure. Tonight, he&#8217;s told her that he&#8217;s out with his uncle doing something, which is highly suspect (considering hanging out with my uncle means my uncle&#8217;s kids as well, and he&#8217;d rather have his gonads in intimate contact with a running belt sander). This is all quite saddening. But not as much as the next one. I have today found out that my good college friend A* has just gotten a divorce. I stood up at his wedding <i>last year<\/i>. It seems like only yesterday I was at his bachelor party introducing his prudish cousin&#8217;s face to strange tits. Now his wife has decided she&#8217;s leaving him for some random dude in Tennesee she met on the internet, exchanged some not-so-nice words, and divorced him. Granted, getting married at 19 may not be the best idea in the world, I did not at all expect their relationship to fail so suddenly or catastrophically.<\/p>\n<p>The worst part of it all is hearing his surprising (facade of) unbitterness, and just knowing that beneath the surface he&#8217;s ready to snap at any moment. I&#8217;ve known this guy (and been roomates for some time) long enough to recognize this state when I see it. Another thing I&#8217;m confused \/ bugged by the level of kindness and compassion he&#8217;s demonstrating to her even in the middle of all this. He&#8217;s letting her still live in his house rather than go back to live with her parents, whom I understand are nut-jobs, but even I, doormat of the world, would have a hard time not kicking her ass (figuratively speaking) directly to the curb.<\/p>\n<p>\nQOTD: &#8216;Hmm, that&#8217;s odd. There&#8217;s a grid reference here of zero zero zero, zero zero zero.&#8217; I stopped shovelling beans as a shiver went down my spine. Where had I heard those words before&#8230;?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>&#8220;Here I sit now, broken-hearted&#8230;&#8221;, goes the familiar bathroom-stall scrawl. While not exactly reveling in my single-ness, watching the supernovae of relationships of those close to me has me re-evaluating this position. At the present moment I am consoling my brother&#8217;s fiancee, who sounds just absolutely despondent over feelings that he doesn&#8217;t care about her [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_FSMCFIC_featured_image_caption":"","_FSMCFIC_featured_image_nocaption":"","_FSMCFIC_featured_image_hide":"","iawp_total_views":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-33","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-general"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/tim.cexx.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/33","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/tim.cexx.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/tim.cexx.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/tim.cexx.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/tim.cexx.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=33"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/tim.cexx.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/33\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/tim.cexx.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=33"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/tim.cexx.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=33"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/tim.cexx.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=33"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}